Tell Us Your Why

Where do you feel safe? In your home, with the people you love, in your community …

What if you didn’t feel safe at home? What if a person you love scared you? What if you felt like you couldn’t count on anyone to help?

For many people, that is a daily reality. 1 in 4 women and 1 in 7 men have been the victim of severe physical violence by an intimate partner in their lifetime. Think about your friends, your neighbors, your coworkers.

Someone you know is living like this.

Nobody should be living like this.

At the Crisis Center, we believe in the basic human right to live safe and free of violence.

Every day we see the impact that violence has on individuals – and on the community.

What often begins behind closed doors ripples through our neighborhoods, our schools, our workplaces and beyond

In the wealthiest suburbs, to the poorest parts of the world, in all cultures and races and creeds

It can be measured in lost time at work – nearly 8 million days, the equivalent of more than 32,000 full-time jobs.

It can be measured in lost lives – in one year, 241 men and 1095 women were murdered by an intimate partner.

It can be measured in what it means for the future – Boys who witness domestic violence are twice as likely to abuse their own partners and children when they become adults.

At the Crisis Center, we’re working to stop violence by empowering individuals through education, prevention and action

With a safe place to stay, safe people to help, and a plan to stay safe.

The Crisis Center fulfills this promise for nearly 20,000 people each year.

But we know that is only a fraction of those who are living in fear.

The only way to stop violence is to not only acknowledge it’s happening – but to DO something about it.

You can help the Crisis Center create a safer world, free of violence – what are you going to do to help us end violence?

4 Responses to “Tell Us Your Why”

  1. Peggy McMahan February 26, 2014 3:22 pm
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    Back in 1983, my “reason why” was that I didn’t want my daughters to grow up thinking what I had with their father was a ‘normal’ marriage. I wanted them to know better. And they do. If that’s the best thing I ever do with my life, it’s enough.

  2. Amy Blackwell March 3, 2014 8:07 am
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    Thanks for sharing that, Peggy! As a child of domestic violence, I can tell you that without your bravery and role modeling they would have likely repeated the cycle. It took a lot of study, introspection, and life experience for me to realize that I could and should have healthy, loving relationships.

    That’s a hint about my “whys,” I suppose. I was a victim of child abuse as well as a witness to my parents’ mutual domestic violence. The context was a rural town where people didn’t intervene in such situations and local religious institutions reinforced what they deemed the absolute, unquestioned authority of husbands over wives and parents over children. It’s taken most of my lifetime, but I’ve become hopeful that individuals, families, and communities can foster a world where violence is not the default setting.

    As a business owner, I also see how violence hobbles our economy through lost work days, reduced productivity, and astronomical costs to our health care system. I urge other local business owners to learn how violence negatively impacts their communities and to support Crisis Center.

  3. Pamela Priest March 3, 2014 7:31 pm
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    My “why” is because when I lived in a women’s shelter… I was one of the only ones who worked and made it out. So many women are afraid. Afraid of the unknown. That ‘unknown’ is often the only direction away from the violence they know.

    I can attest to my fears and I pushed through. I stepped outside my comfort zone because I KNEW that the violence and mind control I was dealing with was wrong.

    My life is not perfect, but its perfectly peaceful. I hope to be able to help (some day) in the after care of women stepping into the unknown.

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    Jennifer Walker March 7, 2014 9:27 am
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    Thank you Pamela, Peggy and Amy for your candidness, your strength and bravery! I have worked with domestic violence and child abuse victims for 27 years and I am always amazed and inspired by people who experience such trauma and abuse and yet, have such resilience. My why is about my work experience and my innate desire for equality, justice and the ending of oppression and violence. I know that what happens in the home, happens in the world…it is the link and it must be fixed.

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